Parent Catchphrases

If my parenting style could be described in one word, that word would be, “no.”

I’m a Christian so there’s a whole box of “no,” right there. I’m also a first time Momma and a single parent so… “nope.”

For the longest my baby girl probably thought my name was, “no.” But I didn’t realize how bad I was until one of my daughter’s first words was, “no.” Smh.

Sometimes I switch it up with tried and true parenting catch phrases:

  • “Stoppit!”
  • “Put it down.”
  • “Leave that alone.”
  • “This isn’t food.”
  • “Lord, have mercy.”
  • “That’s not a toy!”
  • “Give it here!”
  • “Don’t make me come over there.”
  • “You got til the count of 3.”
  • “Lord, give me strength.”
  • “Where’s my wine?”
  • “Alexa: Do hospitals accept returns?” (lol, jk!)
  • “NAP TIME!”

I’m trying to lighten up a bit, though. My young’in is really a sweetheart just trying to find her way in this strange thing we call life.

More than anything I want her to live in a world of possibility not prohibition… I just wish that her world of possibility did not include playing in toilets or eating banana peels >.<

*Rae

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22 thoughts on “Parent Catchphrases

  1. Love it! Better too much no than not enough. You care and are trying to do your best. We all fail. It’s inevitable. If we didn’t, then they wouldn’t have anything to blame on us the rest of their lives and where is the fun in that?? Lol. Stay strong.

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  2. “I just wish that her world of possibility did not include playing in toilets or eating banana peels >.<"

    LOL I'm sure God feel the same way about us! It's so funny cause I can just hear Jesus reciting all your bullet points, even the wine one. 😛 How many times have we played around in filth and eating what's not real food? How spiritually deaf we can be to the Lord's no.

    "'You unbelieving and perverse generation," Jesus replied, "how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with you?'" Matthew 17:17 (NIV)

    Sounds just like a frustrated mother to me. 🙂 However, he is long-suffering, the King of forbearance. Thank God for His mercy and grace, and that He is sloooooooow to anger. However, "The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance." 2 Peter 3:9

    Hugz, Luv, and many blessing to you and your lil one!

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  3. The ‘no’s’ get to me too so I’ve had a couple of ‘yes days’, usually as a reward to the kids for working hard in school or for lovely behaviour 🙂 They loved it but unbeknownst to them I had set up some parameters like I made sure there wasn’t a ton of rubbish food or sweets available in the house, but enough to make them feel they were allowed more than normal and I took them out somewhere nice for a walk so that they didn’t watch tv non stop. It was so stress free for me, I should do it more often actually! 🙂

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  4. You’re a wonderful mother with a great sense of humor. Alexa will appreciate that when she gets older. I especially like the thought of the hospital accepting returns. That will certainly give a child a second thought. LOL

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  5. Eric says:

    LOL – Thankfully you have a good head on your shoulders and you can laugh at yourself. Your child will grow up fine if she can hear the “I love you’s” as much as the “don’t touch that’s”. Be sure to always include time for quiet learning and loving. Just sitting alone with your baby in a quiet environment can bring her to appreciate peace.

    You are a Christian. Do you tell her Bible Stories? Try to make them more impactful by cutting out paper characters and using them to help tell the story.

    You’ve got it all under control. Keep smiling.

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  6. Great that you are noticing how you parent. From a negative home, I had to retrain to get more yes than no each day. Loos = water very attractive. I remember going to sit down once and a seeing plastic seal staring up at me, Funny now, as so much is in hindsight..

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  7. I hear you girl!! I had that enlightenment a few years back, and needed a reminder, so thank you! But my solution when I first came into the realization that a one word summary of my relationship with my child was “no” was to try to suggest alternatives instead of absolutely forbidding.

    For example,
    Ché “Mommy can I ride my bike outside?”
    Me “Right now, we are going into (dinnertime, reading time, whatever). Can you help me plate food instead?”
    (she loves to help out with dinner service, so that’s always a good diversion!)

    or

    Judah (my 3 year old) “Mommy can you buy me cookies?”
    Me “Mommy can buy you a banana or an orange? Which one would you like?”
    (This worked for a good while, but Judah got wise and started realizing I was covertly saying no to the cookie, so I gotta think of another tactic. But perhaps it will bless somebody so I thought to share it!!)

    I think I fell back into the no habit until I read this today. No sense provoking the children to anger by having “no No NO” wars all the time!

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  8. The man who has been my doctor all my life, and is the closest thing to a saint I have ever met. I told him one day, sometimes I feel like all I say is “no” to my son. He suggested, next time you get ready to say “no” to your son, try instead, “Are you suppose to be doing that?” or” “should you be doing that? He said that way your son will tell you “no” instead of you having to be the one saying “no” all the time, AND it will be your son’s idea, which will stick better than being told what to do. I tried it and was amazed at the results. It worked well, and I felt much better.

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  9. At least you are parenting. That is more than a lot of “parents” these days. The first lesson a parent needs to learn is that you are a parent, not a friend. There is a huge difference. Those people who want their children to be their friends should not have children. Being a parent will teach you how God can be both merciful and just. As a parent you need to show mercy; but, you also need to administer justice.

    Do not be afraid to say no. If your child wants to play in the busy street and you don’t say “no”, you will end up with a dead child. Sometimes saying “no” is saying “I love you”.

    Keep your sense of humor, it is a great survival tool for parenthood. Having raised two from infants to adults, I can tell you that you will need it!!! There will be tears, heartbreaks and moments where you really do want to send them back to the hospital; but, it is worth it. I love my children.

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  10. Just wait until your little precious hits 12 or 13. No will return to the main stay of catchphrase-ology. Yes is just as important, just much more dangerous. And wait until you’ve said yes and then later everything gets in the way of yes presenting as a good choice and that little precious says to you, “No, mama, you said I could and you said we must keep our word when we give it.” Or some other variation on the theme. And then… just a few years later… they suddenly think they can pass judgment on your every decision and judge the merit of your every punishment they endure. Ha, ha, he, he… Boy do they get our number. From: loved being a parent of both a boy and a girl; both now full grown and doing great in the Lord. Love those kids/adults now. Smile and be glad you’re just saying no to writing on the wall or pulling some kids hair. Laughing in Tucson from just remembering! Thanks. Steve

    On Sat, Feb 11, 2017 at 8:00 AM, Real as the Streets wrote:

    > *Rae posted: “If my parenting style could be described in one word, that > word would be, “no.” I’m a Christian so there’s a whole box of “no,” right > there. I’m also a first time Momma and a single parent so… “nope.” For > the longest my baby girl probably thought my n” >

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  11. Thank you for your honesty, Rae. To have to exercise our “no” function often is difficult for us because we were created to be people of possibility, not people of prohibition. What a challenge it is for us to be persistent in setting limits for children when our hearts yearn to set them free and set directions toward the possible. Parenting is not for sissies. Stay strong and courageous.

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  12. As a grandfather, I look for reasons/ways to say ‘yes’. Like so many others I am very good at saying no. And ‘no’ is so much easier. It sets the boundary…draws the line. Yes opens the door. It feels so good to say. You relinquish control. Sorry if I sound preachy. After all, as a grandparent, I can say ‘yes’ and send them home…

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  13. Love, Laughter & Truth says:

    Haha, I often catch myself saying, “How many things can Daddy do at once?” and, “How many pairs of hands does Daddy have?” 😂

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  14. Sounds like you’ve received some good advice here. Your precious daughter has much to teach you as our children always do. Kudos to you, the single mom. I know it can’t be easy. Remember to ask for help as you grow alongside this precious gift you’ve been given. And remember to forgive yourself…every day. 😉

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