Random Question

Do you ever find yourself pondering over random theoretical situations or questions? Well, I do. My latest bite of brain pudding is this…

Would it be better to:

  • Have false memories of a traumatic event that never happened, but you truly believe it did happen.

*or*

  • Have no memory whatsoever of a traumatic event that really did happen to you.

Share your thoughts in the comment section! I’m actually curious about this.

*Rae

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38 thoughts on “Random Question

  1. No, and How would I know? if I have no memory of the trauma. I like the brain pudding analogy, I’m picturing your brain at a feed trough with other brains, like livestock eating pudding.

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  2. RGB Rao says:

    ~ The latter … and I believe the brain actually does shut out memories of ours in really really bad situations because it would be too difficult to handle. We actually might be designed that way. I am not a counselor or psych or med but thats my suspicion. Anyway here is why i go for the latter – my 2 cents worth.

    So I actually have very little memory of a traumatic event that happened to me. I along with someone else were driving down a rural road in NC. It was 8 something pm and the sun had long set and it was pretty dark. All I remember is that we were approaching a stop sign in a fairly deserted area – farm country … and the next moment I woke up in a hospital surrounded by docs, nurses, etc. I have only one sliver of a memory of what happened in between … a hazy memory of being in an ambulance… but outside of that I have no other memory. And maybe I am glad because I would probably relive that a 1,000 times over in my mind. Anyway apparently we were broadsided by someone.

    Ciao!
    ~ Raj

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  3. I think neither are healthy. If it happened, then don’t suppress it by lying to yourself because you are not the one at fault. Have no memory is another symptomatic way to lie to yourself – but I understand the mind can and will do this…

    While I mentioned that they may both be unhealthy i can relate to painful memories that a person wish they could escape. Unfortunately, terrible memories and situations are difficult to escape and it requires a lot out of a person to simply press forward in spite of the pain. My prayer for you today is that the Lord help you through this pain. That the Lord will slow down the many times the painful memories appear in your mind. However, as they surface that the Lord will give you insight and strength to process and continue to press forward. Lord, while we cannot change the things that pained our past, please change the way we allow them to bind us to that pain. Lord help us not to lie about it or live in fear, strengthen us and give us peace to press forward.

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  4. Interesting question. How would you know if you had a traumatic event you didn’t remember? Would someone later tell you about it, and it would then affect you? Perhaps. As a precious comment said, neither are healthy.

    That being said, I have a memory of some events that has haunted me for my whole life, and no one in my family remembers the things happening. I will not get into detail here, but it would seem from my families perspective that the memory is false, but it is so real to me I can picture it in my mind. I am thankful to he Lord for delivering me from the effects of this memory, but it still pops in my head quite often, and that was over 60 years ago. And although I don;t think back on it as traumatic at the time, today it wells up as something I wish had never happened. Who knows, maybe it didn’t!

    You got me thinking, Rae!

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  5. I prefer the bliss of ignorance. Remember, the truth will set you free. So a false memory is a lie and there is no freedom there. If you don’t remember the traumatic event there is no trauma. It is like having general anesthesia for surgery. There is lots of trauma when they cut you open; but, because of the anesthesia you don’t remember the trauma. You might answer your question by performing the following experiment: First, undergo major surgery without anesthesia and, second, have a similar major surgery with anesthesia. One is a major trauma that you remember one is a major trauma that you don’t remember. Which seems better? As for having a false memory of a trauma that didn’t happen, the closet thing I am aware of there is the problem with psychotherapist implanting false memories of childhood traumas that didn’t happen. This was most notable in the recent past when there were a number of people who had false memories of childhood sexual abuse implanted by their therapist. It did a lot of harm. Again, lies don’t tend to generate good health.

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  6. Rae, honestly, I’d rather go ahead and face the Truth of the matter–reality–so that I can get beyond the two scenarios you presented. In other words, I’d desire getting truly free so as to not have to deal with it any longer. Makes sense?

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  7. Definitely #2 better to leave the stuff in the vault. God knows what is best for us. He protects us if we cannot survive remembering. I don’t believe the pop-psych that says “you must remember” to be healthy. No. You give God a blank check on trust. He KNOWS what is for our best. You give Him a blank check on forgiveness as well, but you follow Him. Let Him lead the way in ALL things. Liked your question. molly

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  8. This isn’t a fair question: both are traumatic in their own ways. One is imagined and the other real. To live forever with a false memory of this sort can be debilitating. To live with a failed memory can also be troublesome, as I know for my memory is shot and people often tell me about things I’ve said or done and I have no clue as to what they are talking about. That in itself is traumatic. There’s no escape from either.

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  9. My dear friend Rae we shall glory in tribulation, knowing that tribulation worketh patience and patience hope and hope character. Many bad things have happened to all people. In this world ye shall have tribulation. Fear not for I have overcome the world. We believers in the God of Abraham Issac and Jacob believe this… Once we come to Jesus our sins and tribulations are wiped away clean by the blood of Jesus. Instead of it being of a great traumatic event it than becomes a testimony of triumph that we give praise to the Lord for.

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  10. zambydmcd says:

    Definitely the second one. Having false memories of a trauma that never happened could cause a great deal of things that would essentially be based on a lie. Far better to do without the memory of a trauma than live with the lie. In my opinion.

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  11. Good thing no one has to actually choose. Your past may be “gone” but it still resonates with you today and into the future. You are no more than the culmination of your experiences, both internal and external.

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  12. Definitely the false memory is worse. Why? Because it’s false. Do you think a false witness would stand in front of God, even if it felt convincingly correct? And so if a true event is forgotten, as people have said so well, God is more than able to move us on from there, regardless of whether we remember or not. Our moving on with God is based on choices we make to trust and walk in God’s truth more than on deliverance ministry methods.

    That said, my family has faced first hand the terrible, terrible effects of being victims of false memory, and it is only by God’s grace and miraculous intervention that we are alive and together. I know first hand, what it is to be so afraid of someone or so afraid of being unsorted out, that I would invent things to make some authority figure happy.

    It took God’s working in through 8 months of living death, a hell I would never wish even for my worst enemy, to change things around, and even today, things are unresolved as, with false memory, there is no proof; only people’s opinions. But today, years later, we have experienced first hand, the incredible love of a Father who treats us as the apple of His eye, His deep and loving belief in us, and His quiet, against all odds way of working things towards change and restoration.

    I need to say that it was years of resisting God that forced Him to allow such devastation to happen, and it’s only been Him who has or who could have even, made all things new, and worked in, certainly, my own life extraordinary change. That’s where my ‘apple of His eye’ comment on one of your posts came from. 🙂

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  13. trotter387 says:

    For some sad psycho babble – both are engineered therefore neither can be validated hence both are to be avoided.
    If choice is the key factor the second would always be chosen over the first because those who had chosen it wouldn’t know they had chosen it.
    The rational mind offers us many challenging thoughts because reality frustrates simple processes like justice. If someone does wrong there has to be a consequence but we know that isn’t so. Therefore we would always chose avoidance so that we can maintain our mental equilibrium.
    Sorry you asked one of my favourite theoretical questions for humanities students based on the principle of avoidance by choice.

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  14. The ‘first’ thought…for sure…(once one has sifted through what occurred and hasn’t) because if the memories are false…then the entities in the memory are false but the wisdom deducted from the proposed events are limitless. I used to be a big fan of ‘experience is the best teacher’… but I’m more of a, “prudent man forseeth evil and hides himself ” , today.
    Also, the fact that you can reflect on these events and gain perspective on them, the better equipped one can be in having empathy toward others who have suffered similar experiences.
    The second experience doesn’t seem to afford you that opportunity. (It does, but there’s more of a ‘cap’ on it, being that you have NO memories.)
    Great Weekend to you and yours. God bless.

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  15. No memory of a trauma would be better. Then in the next life when we will remember everything we will also have the coping skills and hopefully pure love to forgive and move on.

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  16. I do not look at what I might WANT, but rather what I should have. A false memory of something that did not happen is of absolutely no profit for the soul, and having no memory of what did happen, whether traumatic or not, is also of no value. These suggestions may help you feel good, but is that the lesson of life? The lesson is to learn, and then put into practice what we learn…how can we learn from what we do not know? If you would like to experience learning, try destroying the cross that hangs around your neck which is false… then you will see what is not false. Good day to you.
    Peace and Grace… Mikey

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  17. This is tricky. I have memories that I’ve been told are false…but I am learning from them and growing from a person even though I don’t have the proof or validation I would like or need. But before these began surfacing, I always reacted in ways I didn;t undersand about myself and that bothered me. So even if you don’t remember, your body does and it still does affect you. I’m on the fence with this one….like I said, tricky.

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  18. Secret Keeper, I am right here with you! I have memories that I’ve been told are false, too. But my body, mind, and heart are utterly convinced otherwise.

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