My Prejudice and Prayer

Recently I was confronted with the realization I am prejudiced against a certain class of individuals. Am I proud of it? No.

But the holiday season really pushes my fear front and center. It seems like everyone and their Momma is out shopping. That means more populated stores.

I’ll be in Publix minding my own business. Trying to decide what sushi plate to buy. Then there they are. You can tell the worst ones by their hair and kids.

I never judge a book by its cover.

Unless the book has a bob hairstyle, a kid on the dance team, just got back from a PTA meeting, and almost runs me over with their buggy.

People who walk in the store like they own the place. Completely cold to the welfare of others. With a frigid look that just yells, “I will choke you to death right here in this Publix if you come between me and my son’s peanut-free peanut butter.”

Or they give you an empty, dead inside glance as they buy cosmetics for a daughter that is one house party away from being on Teen Mom.

I’m talking about upper middle-class women who seem to just hate life. You know? Those women who appear to have it all: nice car, kids at good schools, husband with a great job.

Yet, cross their path in a grocery store and they look like they are ready to claw your eyes out for no reason other than to see the smile fade from your lips.

Or they pull into a parking lot, driving their obnoxiously large SUV, and you wonder for a brief moment if they are going to run over that elderly gentleman.

I’m actually being dead ass serious right now. I’m terrified of upper middle-class women. This is why I never go shopping right after school or Church lets out. I get too many negative vibes at once.

I can’t tell if I’m being irrational or intuitive. I legit get anxious when I’m around too many bob hairstyles, resting bitch faces, and iPhones.


My prayer is that everyone finds something to smile about this Christmas season.

May Jesus shine positivity and glee into everyone’s lives!

Especially those who may negatively impact my shopping experience. 🙂


20 thoughts on “My Prejudice and Prayer

  1. Amanda says:

    You are not irrational. Check out what the Lord says about the “haughty daughters of Zion” in Isaiah 3. Women can be the worst of all when it comes to harsh judgment, pride, gossip, and the like. Even so, a little love can change their hearts of stone too, just as ours is being changed by His love. Loving the enemy, easier said than done, right? Even so, what you feel is not uncommon or misplaced.

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  2. I know it’s easier said than done, but kindness usually melts any hatred away, and if it doesn’t, just doing it anyway, in spite of, because GOD sees, and HE loves these that are hateful too(Matthew 5:45) . We never know anyway what people are really going through either. Christmas brings joy for many and it’s painful too for many.

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  3. This is SO true!Or they put their shopping cart in the middle of the isle and you can’t get around them. You politely ask them to move. Yet they give you that ugly stare that you are burdening them. I am “somewhat” that income level. However, I HAVE NEVER behaved that way. I also do not have a bob hairstyle, drive a huge SUV or dress to impress. I really do not care what others think of me. So those woman think I am not in their “elite” status!

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  4. Don’t feel bad Rae. I have my prejudices too and I’m working to overcome them. But the one you mentioned is always difficult. Pride is a terrible thing no matter who has it. It crosses all economic and social barriers and classes. About all we can do is pray for those and as previous comment said be kind. I hope you don’t run into too many and that you have a wonderful Christmas. Be blessed

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  5. I laughed so hard when I read this cause I feel the same way. Not just about upper middle class women, but all of them who walk around like someone popped in their Cheerios everyday since they were born. Another reason why Ive developed social anxiety. Its just too much. Thanks for the post. Now i dont feel as bad 😉😂

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  6. Someone said, “The hardest people to love need love the most.” Exhibit kindness and generosity as much as you can. God will take care of the conversion (of your heart and theirs) and the annoying feeling.

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  7. Not sure how to respond to this. We lived in a better neighborhood, but didn’t feel like we fit in, so when we moved to our new location we realized that we were amongst “our kind” and felt more peace. But I do have friends who do not understand what it really means to live from pay check to paycheck, yet they are kind and courteous. One of my friends lived on welfare for some time but married into money. She is still my friend though she has the ability to tour the world at pleasure. Not sure if it the middle class that makes you nervous or the elite pride some are displaying that tends to make you feel judged. Yes, there will ALWAYS be rude people no matter what social class they find themselves. I just think we all feel better with what is familiar to us. The church I attend caters to the poor, the wealthy and those of us in between. It caters to every race imaginable. It is there that I feel at peace because we have one thing in common — Jesus. And it is there that we work side by side, worshiping together and praying for one another. People can be mean. But remember who lives in you. He has your back ALWAYS. Learn to laugh because you my dear, are a child of the LIVING KING.

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  8. We all have our stereotypes and prejudices. On the one hand, we are called to have a biblical view of folks based on love. The old adage to be kind because you never know what someone is going through rings true. On the other hand, we also are rightly informed by our knowledge and experience. You are wise to be cautious, whether it be with an uncaring elite woman wielding a potential weapon with her vehicle in a store parking lot, or with a seemingly nice down and out man you meet on the city bus who in truth has the heart and habits of a con artist.

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  9. dw says:

    Thanks so much for sharing this – it hits home for me. For what it’s worth, I have come to feel sorry for them. Their subculture, including their husbands and churches, demands superhuman perfection from them; they try everything to measure up and fit in, but inwardly they know they don’t; they feel like failures but have to look successful. They hate it, just as I would, but they are stuck. It’s that mixture of hate and desperation we see in their faces.

    I think their suffering is greater than we can imagine. They can never be just themselves.

    My 2 cents…

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  10. At one time or another, we all realize that we have prejudice of some kind or another. It’s part of life, of the fall of man, but let me ask you this, when you allow these kinds of people to get under your skin and give you a bad vibe, who are you focusing on, you or Christ in you. Christ in you would cry out for their souls and show them the love of God. I’m not saying this as a judgment but as an encouragement to become more focused on Christ in you living. Who are you in Christ and how can you allow Him to live thru you?With this in mind, step out and go shopping after church or after school. See what happens.
    Know who you are in Christ, Rae, and then let Him shine thru you!
    Be blessed and have a wonderful Christmas!

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  11. Bob says:

    It was funny, but came off a little harsh to me Rae, but I try to deal with my own prejudices by putting myself in the shoes of others, especially when I’m driving. Plus, I’m quite sure I’ve been on more than a few peoples hate group list for some reason or another. One of my favorite quotes, not sure who said it first is this, “Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant with the weak and wrong. Sometime in your life, you will have been all of these.” Thanks for sharing.

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  12. Vera Bradley bags and Lily Pulitzer dresses. They frighten me. Like I’m a stay at home mom. My partner has a great job. We’re on that fine line of upper middle class but I hate those bitches. Excuse my French. I stay away from them at all costs. People wouldn’t know how fortunate I was if I didn’t tell them because I still penny pinch and I don’t let what we have show.

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  13. Maddox says:

    Nah… I’m the same way. People go through a lot during this season. It’s always “Happy Holidays! ” for most people. But it’s anything less than happy for most people. I’ve seen more deaths, breakups, premature pregnancies, and newly created debt during this season than ever before. But again, that’s just from my side of the spectrum.

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  14. I hear ya…this is a good reminder to just smile and be friendly, as well as be gracious to the miserable, empty people around us. Only Christ can make a difference in a person’s life, I know He has in mine!

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  15. Hi Rae,

    No matter who people are, money of status can try and fill a heart where only Jesus belongs. No wonder they are miserable and want to take us all with them. Shine your light in a dark world,


    On Tue, Dec 19, 2017 at 7:50 AM Real as the Streets wrote:

    > *Rae posted: “Hey, y’all! Hope all is going well with you and yours in > this season of Him and being His. But before I go playing all Sweet Baby > Rae*, I have a confession. Recently, I was confronted with the realization > that I have a prejudicial fear of a certain clas” >

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