Loving Less and Loving It

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On some real:

I love practicing minimalism! A complete 180 from the materialistic start of my college career. Remember all those strapless sin suits I trashed/donated? They were 100% funded by poor decision-making. Now I’m going in the opposite direction: actively accumulating less. That’s the basic concept of minimalism.

So with the definition of actively accumulating less, minimalism can be applied in all areas of life. But for me, it started in the home because I felt smothered by all the “stuff” we had acquired. Impulsive purchases, useless trinkets, sentimental guilt trash (the stuff we would throw away if we didn’t feel sentimental guilt about doing so.)

Anyway.

I raided the house looking for any excuse to remove something from my home. It was an extensive process and took some time. But every discarded/donated item was like a weight lifting off me. Big items. Small items. Being able to rationalize why I didn’t need an item instead of rationalizing why I did, gave me freedom I never experienced before.

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It’s Not a Choice.

I typically avoid hot-button issues, mainly because I believe it’s an elaborate ploy by the devil to divide Christ’s people, but there’s one subject I am passionate about.

Now I know what it says in the Bible, but I know for a fact that some preferences in life are established at birth. My daughter, approximately 2, has demonstrated certain predispositions.

What I’m about to disclose may offend a few (or more) of my readers. But I’m willing to risk that…

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2 Ps of Parenting

There are two schools of thought when it comes to motherhood. We can choose to either be the b*tch or the best friend. I aim to be an appropriate combination of the two. I want to be firm, but fair- and a little fun. Like Albus Dumbledore. Unfortunately, I’m more McGonagall.

This gets magnified when my baby and I are around her grandparents or great grandparents.

So me and my daughter’s family were all at a restaurant last night.

Me, being firm but fair and a little fun: Here’s the kid’s menu and two crayons. Want to color Mommy a picture? 😀

My Daughter: Yeah! *Colors*

Then she drops one of the two crayons. Me, not wanting to deny my belly fruit the luxury of two crayons, bends over and picks up the crayon and hands it to her.

Me: Here you go, you cute little piece of pie. 🙂

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Clothed in Christ & No Muffin Tops

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I’ve started waking up extra early, take my time and do full make-up. Contouring, smoky eye, the works.

And though vanity is something I got to keep in check, I’ve noticed I feel better about myself when I take time for myself.

Also another big confidence booster was getting rid of all the clothes that didn’t fit my body and lifestyle.

Y’all know how liberating it is to go in your closet and know everything fits in the most flattering way? To be able to focus on color and pattern- not size.

It’s like having a little shop just for my frame. Everything is size Rae! Yay!

But it’s really not about clothes. Or wearing the latest and greatest. It’s about knowing my value and dressing myself like I’m worth the time and effort.

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Buh-Bye, Strapless Sin Suits

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Like I mentioned in Reality Check, Mah Ninja, I’m going through a period of identity transformation.

I’ve never been good at fashion. My whole life was sweats and tees to hide the ol’ jelly belly. Then I lost weight. From there, if I could get it around the middle, would wear it.

So my closet was a smorgasbord of “why do you still own this?!” type of clothing that once defined my life.

But I’m a new creature in Christ and need to clothe myself accordingly.

Which is why I’m getting rid of anything lifestyle inappropriate or too small. Unfortunately, most items I’ve gone through are both. 😦

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Reality Check, Mah Ninja

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My cultural identity has evolved over the years. Growing up biracial in the South, I didn’t know whether to listen to Skynyrd or Pac. (So I chose both)

Being submerged in two distinct Southern cultures saturated with Christian teachings has its advantages and disadvantages.

Disadvantage: Making decisions without feeling ostracized by your peers who are, for all intents and purposes, walking stereotypes.

Example: When dealing with escalated confrontation from another party do I kick they ass? Bless their heart? Or turn the other cheek?

Advantage: Realizing you get the best of all worlds.

Example: When dealing with escalated confrontation from another party, I use a progressive strike system. Turn the other cheek, bless their heart, then kick they ass.

Yeah… Jesus puts in overtime with me. #workinprogress

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How I Cope

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These past two weeks, I’ve been in an episode. For those unfamiliar with the term, an “episode” is when depression-prone individuals fall into a temporary bout of darkness.
I’m finally clawing my way back out. And let me just say, this last episode was something severe. Anyway, the Lord saw me through it. As use.

Now that I’m a bit more clear-headed, I want to share some of the activities that are helping me out of this pit of pity and hopelessness:

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